I can see how people hate weddings. It's not the wedding itself or the people involved... It's what planning the wedding does to the people involved. I never knew there were so many things you could disagree about. Envelope sizes and tie colors, the thousand tiny details... no one attending the wedding will ever notice or remember, but these are the things that haunt the wedding planners, creating tension and rifts.
Alayna, be kind. Be thoughtful. Be the first to assume the best in people and never take anything personally. Miscommunication is the common enemy of us all. Be patient.
Take the time to talk about something else. Remember that the lives of everyone involved are important too, and you don't just stop caring about them because someone is getting married. It's healthy, therapeutic even, to talk about different, normal things. When you fight about stupid little things, it's also important to have quality communication to balance it out... no matter how small and insignificant your words may seem at the time.
It will all be alright.
And when the time comes? Don't be too busy to enjoy the moment you helped create.
-Alayna
Dear Future Me,
Sometimes you work really hard at something, and it doesn't work out. Sometimes there is nothing you can do about it. So, honey, you're just going to have to live with it. I know how highly you think of yourself and that the two hardest words for you to piece together are "I" and "failed." But sometimes you have to face it, own up, and move on.
Yes, I failed. But life goes on (in endless song, above earth's lamentation...) and so must I. My favorite movie is Meet the Robinsons, and one of the greatest moments from this incredibly quotable movie is when one of the characters says, "From failure you learn. From success? Not so much." Sure, failure isn't my favorite teacher, but he's an effective one.
You just need to know that... it's ok. It happens to everyone and it's part of being human. It can be fixed. Maybe you can't do it alone, so don't hesitate to rely on the people around you who offer to help.
I failed. I am not perfect. I still have a lot to learn. And I am ok with all of these things.
There now, that wasn't so hard.
Hang in there, girl
Love,
Alayna
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Dear Future Me,
Sometimes you work really hard at something, and it doesn't work out. Sometimes there is nothing you can do about it. So, honey, you're just going to have to live with it. I know how highly you think of yourself and that the two hardest words for you to piece together are "I" and "failed." But sometimes you have to face it, own up, and move on.
Yes, I failed. But life goes on (in endless song, above earth's lamentation...) and so must I. My favorite movie is Meet the Robinsons, and one of the greatest moments from this incredibly quotable movie is when one of the characters says, "From failure you learn. From success? Not so much." Sure, failure isn't my favorite teacher, but he's an effective one.
You just need to know that... it's ok. It happens to everyone and it's part of being human. It can be fixed. Maybe you can't do it alone, so don't hesitate to rely on the people around you who offer to help.
I failed. I am not perfect. I still have a lot to learn. And I am ok with all of these things.
There now, that wasn't so hard.
Hang in there, girl
Love,
Alayna
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